Love At Any Age with Laurie Gerber

Ep 33: Why He Pulls Away: The Ex-Wife Trigger You Don't Know About

What does a divorced man over 50 really need in dating, and why do so many smart, capable women keep accidentally driving him away? 
In this episode, Laurie Gerber and returning guest Lisa Copeland decode the 5 things divorced men wish women over 50 knew before dating them. Using real comments from divorced men who responded to Episode 18, they cover what men over 50 really want, why women unknowingly trigger ex-wife fears, what intimacy actually means to a man who has been touch-deprived, and the communication gap that makes normal female conversation feel like an attack. This is dating after divorce advice grounded in what men actually say, not what we assume they mean.
Laurie Gerber has been helping women over 50 date effectively for 20 years, and Lisa Copeland is one of the first coaches to focus exclusively on dating in midlife. Together, they bring decades of expertise to a format that sets this episode apart: the insights don't come filtered through a coaching lens alone. They come directly from divorced men who had something to say about what women keep getting wrong. If you want to attract a divorced man and stop repeating the patterns that go sideways, this conversation is worth your full attention.
⏱ TIMESTAMPS00:00–03:33 — Intro: 5 things divorced men wish women knew. 03:33–08:41 — Accepted as is: the one thing divorced men want most. 08:41–12:01 — Trust: how women unknowingly push men away. 12:01–21:59 — The ex-wife trigger: what criticism signals to divorced men. 21:59–25:07 — What divorced men actually mean by intimacy. 25:07–30:06 — Flirting after 50: how to show real interest. 30:06–37:13 — Why divorced men need women to get to the point. 37:13–42:03 — Homework: the 3 pairs of dating glasses.
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCESEpisodes mentioned in this conversation:
Episode 18: 8 Things Men Really Want in a Woman Over 50 (with Lisa Copeland) https://youtu.be/XLXCOjYu36w
Lisa Copeland's free resource (mentioned in this episode): The Art of Flirting After 50: How to Let a Man Know You're Interested Without Feeling Awkward, Fake, or Like You're Chasing Him 👉 https://find-a-quality-man.aweb.page/Laurie-flirting-after-50
Lisa Copeland: 🔗 https://findaqualityman.com/
More from Laurie:If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, I walk you through the 3H method step by step in my free 1-hour training: 👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_033&utm_term=lisa_copeland
Take Laurie's quiz (Are You Ready to Date Like You Mean It?) and explore all her coaching resources: 👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_033&utm_term=lisa_copeland
 
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Ep 32: The 3 Signs He's Healed Enough to Date (And When to Walk Away)

Are you dating a divorced man over 50 and wondering if he's actually healed, or just using you as his rebound therapist?
Dating a divorced man isn't just dating him. You're dating his wounds, his trust issues, his ex-wife dynamic, and sometimes his complicated relationship with his kids. It can feel like a lot,  because it is. And if you don't know what you're looking for, it's easy to end up in a relationship that drains you instead of fills you up.
In this episode of Love at Any Age, Laurie Gerber sits down with Rachael Sloan, founder of Better Beyond Divorce, a coaching program that helps men heal emotionally after separation. Rachael has worked with over 600 divorced men and she knows what a healed man actually looks like before he starts dating again. 
This is a rare peek behind the curtain at what men are really going through, and what women over 50 need to know to stop missing the signs. Laurie and Rachael cover the 3 green flags that tell you a divorced man is genuinely ready, the rebound relationship signs that women consistently overlook, and how to handle ex-wife drama and his kids without losing yourself in the process. If you're dating after divorce over 50, this episode will save you months of confusion.
⏱ TIMESTAMPS00:01–01:28 — Why Dating a Divorced Man Is Different
01:28–03:08 — Meet Rachael Sloan: Inside the Divorced Men's World
03:08–06:30 — Red Flag: When He Uses Dating as Therapy
06:30–09:03 — What Divorced Men Are Really Struggling With
09:03–14:00 — Trust, Emotional Availability & What Women Miss
14:00–19:07 — Nervous System Regulation & Old Biases About Men
19:07–22:46 — The 3 Signs He's Actually Ready to Date
22:46–35:03 — Good Men, Healing Stages & Bringing Out His Best
35:03–38:44 — When His Ex Comes Back on the Scene
38:44–50:21 — His Kids, the Final Red Flag & Rachael's Free Guide
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCESRachael Sloan's Free Download: Emotional Stages of Divorce — A Survival Guide for Men 9 stages of the divorce grieving process, with signs for each stage and exercises to help men move through them instead of getting stuck.  https://resources.rachaelsloancoaching.com/stages
👉 Find Rachael and Better Beyond Divorce at: https://www.rachaelsloancoaching.com/
Rachael's YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@RachaelSloanRelationshipCoach
Episode mentioned: Ep. 24 with Alison Armstrong on men, agency, and what they really need in relationships https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mflu8wn4e64
 
More from Laurie:
If you are a man looking for help with dating, please fill out Laurie’s survey to get in touchhttps://lauriegerber.com/maol-men-survey
If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, Laurie walks you through how to define what you’re looking for,  step by step in her free 75-minute training: 👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_032&utm_term=rachael_sloan
🌐 Website: https://www.lauriegerber.com/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_032&utm_term=rachael_sloan
 
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Ep 31: Monogamy Before Sex: 6 Hurdles You Need to Clear First

Are you assuming you're exclusive when you've never actually had the conversation?
Most women over 50 who are dating again make this exact mistake, and the fallout is real. She stops checking other profiles. She tells her friends. She starts planning a future. And he has no idea any of that is happening.
In this episode of Love at Any Age, Laurie Gerber breaks down why assuming monogamy is one of the most common and costly mistakes in dating over 50. She hands you a complete framework for handling it: assessing your own 3H readiness, clearing the 6 hurdles before sex belongs in the relationship, and following a precise 4-step checklist for actually establishing exclusivity. This episode gives you the words, the order, and the confidence to stop guessing and start choosing.
Laurie helps women over 50 stop operating on assumptions and start building real, lasting love. If you're dating right now and the exclusivity conversation hasn't happened yet, this episode is not optional.
⏱ TIMESTAMPS00:01–00:27 — Why assuming monogamy in dating is costing you. 00:28–01:32 — What today's episode covers: the full roadmap. 01:33–03:18 — Who this episode is for; Laurie's dating coaching philosophy. 03:19–05:10 — The monogamy mismatch: men assume vs. women assume. 05:11–08:10 — How to assess your 3H readiness before raising monogamy. 08:11–11:11 — Why waiting for monogamy before sex protects your heart. 11:12–20:30 — The 6 hurdles to clear before having sex with someone. 20:31–29:11 — The 4-step checklist to establish monogamy (exact words to use). 29:12–35:59 — Homework, crazy comments, and closing thoughts.
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCESEpisodes mentioned in this episode:
Episode 5 (how to talk about the difficult things and liabilities): https://youtu.be/qN-d5vMFdwEEpisode 12 (dating profiles and what you have to offer): https://youtu.be/sawFhaAk5NQEpisode 13 (referenced in Crazy Comments): https://youtu.be/UTqyOl7K0WcEpisode 30 with Donna Barnes (attachment, chemistry, and the 6 hurdles): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GLvnDQgyH5k&t=174s
More from Laurie:
If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, Laurie walks you through the 3H method step by step in her free 75-minute training: 👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_031
Stay connected with Laurie:📺 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/
 
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Ep 30: When Is It Actually Time to Have Sex?

Are you still following the third date rule when it comes to sex, and wondering why it keeps backfiring?
Most dating advice about when to have sex is either vague, outdated, or designed with someone else's agenda in mind. For women over 50, the stakes are higher. You know what heartbreak costs. You know what it feels like to override your own gut and regret it. And you deserve a clear, practical roadmap instead of a guessing game.
In this episode, dating coach Laurie Gerber sits down with relationship expert and podcast host Donna Barnes to walk through the 6 questions every woman over 50 must be able to answer before sex belongs in a new relationship. 
From "do I know him well enough?" to the monogamy conversation most couples skip entirely, this episode covers the real meaning of readiness and gives you a checklist you can actually use. If you've ever wondered how long to wait before sex, what healthy relationship sex actually looks like, or how to have the STI conversation without dying of awkwardness, this one is for you.
⏱ TIMESTAMPS00:00–02:05 — The Third Date Rule: Myth vs. Reality02:06–07:28 — Donna's 10-Date Rule and Why It Works07:29–09:47 — Introducing Donna Barnes09:48–18:42 — Question 1: Do I Know Him Well Enough?18:43–20:53 — Question 2: Are We a Real Match?20:54–26:48 — Question 3: Are My Eyes Wide Open?26:49–31:15 — Question 4: Has Monogamy Been Defined?31:16–35:37 — Question 5: Are We Responsible About STIs?35:38–43:18 — Question 6: Are We Prepared for It to Go Well?43:19–45:30 — Homework + Where to Find Donna
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES📖 Previously mentioned episode: Episode 6: Questions to Ask on the First Few Dates: https://youtu.be/rNcaQKJxBqA📚 Guest Resources: 🎙 Broken to Brave Podcast (Donna Barnes)  https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOy5sro7RED31krPpnsgsUx-KjcTbTHkd🌐 https://donnabarnes.com 📺 Donna Barnes on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@DonnaBarnes/ 
More from Laurie:If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, Laurie walks you through the 3H method step by step in her free 75-minute training: 👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=love_at_any_age&utm_medium=youtube&utm_campaign=guest_appearance&utm_content=donna_barnes&utm_term=ep30 🌐 https://lauriegerber.com https://www.lauriegerber.com?utm_source=love_at_any_age&utm_medium=youtube&utm_campaign=guest_appearance&utm_content=donna_barnes&utm_term=ep30 Stay connected with Laurie:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/
 
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Ep 29: The 3rd Date Mistakes That Leads to Situationships

Are third date mistakes what's keeping you in situationships or almost-relationships that go nowhere?
Three dates in, something real has started to form. There's history, laughter, regular texts, and a growing sense of possibility. But this is also where investment bias kicks in, where a four or five sneakily starts to feel like an eight, and where most women stop asking the questions that actually matter. By date 3, the window for a clean, clear decision is still open. At date four, it starts to close.
In this episode of Love at Any Age, Laurie Gerber tackles the 3 third date mistakes that send women into situationships, wasted months, and relationships they never truly wanted. From avoiding deal-breaker conversations to skipping the monogamy discussion before getting physical to staying past date three when the signs are already there, this episode gives women the dating coach advice they need to make the right call before emotional attachment makes it harder. If you are looking for honest long-term relationship advice and real tools for dating decision-making, this one delivers.
Laurie Gerber has spent more than 20 years helping women through exactly this inflection point, and she knows what investment bias costs women over 50 who are serious about finding the right match. Her 3H framework gives you a concrete, no-guesswork method for knowing whether to keep going or walk away clean.
She also shares the exact conversation starters for the hardest topics, including finances, health, and monogamy, and explains why the real third date rule has nothing to do with sex and everything to do with protecting your time, your energy, and your future.
⏱ TIMESTAMPS00:00-00:27 - Welcome and Why the 3rd Date Is the Most Important00:27-02:00 - What Investment Bias Is and Why It Kicks In Now02:00-03:38 - Date 3 as Your Last Clean Exit Point03:38-07:05 - Mistake 1: Avoiding the Deal Breaker Conversations07:05-08:30 - How to Lead with Vulnerability to Open Hard Topics08:30-11:06 - Mistake 2: Skipping Monogamy Before Getting Physical11:06-13:13 - Mistake 3: Staying When You Already Know It's Wrong13:13-15:55 - The 3H Test and Your Homework Before the Next Date
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCESEpisodes Mentioned: 🎙 Dating Mini-Episode Part 1 (First Date Mistakes): [insert link when available] 🎙 Dating Mini-Episode Part 2 (Second Date Mistakes): [insert link when available] 🎙 Episode 8 (How to Reject Someone with Kindness):https://youtu.be/ugW2K8_SYzw
If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, I walk you through the 3H method step by step in my free 75-minute training: 👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar🎓 Ready to go deeper? The Master the Art of Love digital course covers all of this from start to finish: 👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/MAOL🌐 Website: https://www.lauriegerber.com
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Ep 28: Second Date Mistakes That Are Keeping You Single

Are second date mistakes the reason your early dating momentum keeps stalling?
Date one went well. There was chemistry, real conversation, and genuine excitement. Then date two arrived, and somehow the energy shifted. Most women never see these landmines coming, which is exactly why they keep stepping on them.
In this episode of Love at Any Age, Laurie Gerber breaks down 3 second date mistakes that derail real connection before it has a chance to form. From choosing the wrong setting to rushing physical intimacy to skipping the questions that actually matter, this episode delivers concrete 2nd date tips for women who want to stop wasting time on the wrong person. If you are dating over 50 and looking for dating advice for women that goes past the surface level, this is the episode to save and revisit.
With more than 20 years of helping women in early dating, Laurie Gerber knows exactly where momentum dies and how to protect it. Her 3H Method (Head, Heart, and Hoo-ha) gives women over 50 a clear, structured way to evaluate a match without getting swept away by chemistry or loneliness.She also covers the one drink order that puts your judgment at risk, why strong attraction is not a reason to move faster, and how to tell whether his responses to your questions are a green light or a warning sign worth heeding.
⏱ TIMESTAMPS00:00-00:30 - Welcome and What's at Stake on the 2nd Date00:30-02:51 - Mistake 1: Wrong Setting, Wrong Outcome02:51-06:12 - Why Quiet Dates Outperform Fun Dates Every Time06:12-08:06 - Mistake 2: Moving Too Fast Physically on the 2nd Date08:06-09:53 - The Alcohol Rule That Protects Your Judgment09:53-11:16 - Mistake 3: Skipping the Questions That Matter11:16-12:54 - How to Read His Responses for Real Red Flags12:54-15:13 - Homework: Rate the 2nd Date Using the 3H Method
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCESEpisodes Mentioned: 🎙 Dating Mini-Episode Part 1 (First Date Mistakes): https://youtu.be/Lz6vtWkvbPI🎙 
More from Laurie:If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, I walk you through the 3H method step by step in my free 75-minute training: 👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=love_at_any_age&utm_medium=youtube&utm_campaign=solo_episode&utm_term=ep28🌐 Website: https://www.lauriegerber.com?utm_source=love_at_any_age&utm_medium=youtube&utm_campaign=solo_episode&utm_content=show_notes&utm_term=ep28
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Ep 27: 3 First Date Mistakes That Kill the Second Date

Are you walking away from first dates thinking everything went fine, only to wonder later why it never led anywhere?
Most women put all their energy into showing up attractive and being fun. 
The problem is the game is already being lost before they walk through the door. These mistakes aren't obvious, and that's exactly what makes them so costly.
In this episode, dating coach Laurie Gerber breaks down the 3 most common first date mistakes that fuel dating fatigue, undermine second dates, and keep women stuck in a loop of disappointing connections. From the dinner date trap to showing up without a plan, Laurie delivers the first date tips and dating preparation strategies that will change how you approach every date from here forward. If you've been making these online dating mistakes without realizing it, this episode is the reset you need.
Laurie Gerber has spent over 20 years helping daters find love later in life, and she has watched these same 3 mistakes play out again and again. In this episode, she gives women over 50 the direct, no-fluff dating advice they actually need, including a post-date checklist built around her signature 3H Framework to help them decide, with total clarity, whether a second date is worth pursuing.
⏱ TIMESTAMPS00:00-01:17 - Episode Preview: Three First Date Mistakes01:18-02:11 - Why Women Over 50 Can't Afford to Wing It02:12-03:40 - Mistake 1: The Dinner Date Trap Explained03:41-05:59 - The 3H Framework and Your Exit Strategy06:00-07:30 - Mistake 2: Showing Up to Dates Unprepared07:31-10:43 - What Smart First Date Preparation Looks Like10:44-13:11 - Mistake 3: Why You Should Meet in Public13:12-16:57 - The Post-Date 3H Checklist for Second Dates
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCESPrevious episodes mentioned: 🎙 Episode 6 — How to Prepare Your First Date Questions (full breakdown of all four question categories): https://youtu.be/rNcaQKJxBqA
Laurie's Free Training: If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, Laurie walks you through the 3H method step by step in her free 75-minute training: 👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar
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Ep 26: Why Therapy Alone Won't Fix Your Dating Patterns

What does it actually take to stop repeating the same toxic dating cycles, even after years of therapy, journaling, and doing "all the work"?
In this episode of Love at Any Age, Laurie Gerber sits down with licensed therapist, homeopath, and integrative healer Dawn Wiggins to go deep on the real reason so many women find themselves choosing the wrong partner again and again after divorce. The answer lives below conscious awareness: a buried belief that it isn't safe, or simply not deserved, to have healthy lasting love. Self-sabotage in dating rarely looks like sabotage from the inside. This conversation is essential dating after divorce advice for anyone who has felt genuinely stuck in a cycle they can't seem to think their way out of.
Laurie helps women through this exact gap, the distance between knowing your pattern and actually breaking it. As a dating coach for women over 50 with more than 20 years of experience, she brings in Dawn to address what emotional healing after divorce really requires: somatic work, lineage-level clearing, and tools that reach what talk therapy alone can't access. Together, they tackle the loneliness vs. compatibility question that shapes almost every dating mistake after divorce, and they name the signs that a woman is ready to date but not yet ready to choose well.
Dawn also breaks down what homeopathy has to do with dating patterns, how generational trauma compounds a woman's belief system without her knowing it, and why the "bad boy" pull isn't simply a bad habit. It runs deeper than that. And at the end, there is a concrete homework assignment you can use in the exact moment you feel yourself sliding back into an old pattern.
⏱ TIMESTAMPS00:00–01:44 — Why therapy alone won't stop you from repeating patterns01:44–04:15 — Meet licensed therapist and integrative healer Don Wiggins04:15–08:55 — The unconscious belief beneath the surface blocking love08:55–13:25 — How dissociation keeps old wounds hidden and unresolved13:25–23:06 — Generational trauma, the ACEs scale, and how homeopathy helps23:06–30:09 — Loneliness as a warning sign you're not ready to choose well30:09–43:59 — Bad boys, attachment styles, and Don's personal love story43:59–50:45 — A 3-part journaling exercise to stop self-sabotage in dating
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES🎙 Guest: Dawn Wiggins 🌟 Join Dawn’s free online community and download the freebie: EMDR immersive journaling program for loneliness: https://community.mycoachdawn.com/invitation?code=CEB64G🎧 Dear Divorce Diary Podcast (Apple Podcasts): https://cc54422c.streak-link.com/C3MNOgw7-3-QlXnUrw23kW4A/https%3A%2F%2Fpodcasts.apple.com%2Fus%2Fpodcast%2Fdear-divorce-diary-a-fresh-approach-to-healing%2Fid1629538946🌿 Book a homeopathy consult: https://cc54422c.streak-link.com/C3MNOg0q6sug5jPDZArNDOLO/https%3A%2F%2Fwww.dawnwigginstherapy.com%2Fcontact-us%2F🧠 Your Post-Divorce Nervous System Tells the Truth Your Hormones Can’t Hide (quiz): https://scoreapp.mycoachdawn.com/p/4-patterns-of-hormone-grief-disconnection?_gl=1*akwzo2*_ga*Mjg0Mzg2MjkwLjE2NDcyNjc5Mjg.*_ga_EWZ29X6VS7*czE3NzQzNjU3MTUkbzgxJGcwJHQxNzc0MzY1NzE1JGo2MCRsMCRoMA..*_ga_353096873*czE3NzQzNjU3MTUkbzkzJGcwJHQxNzc0MzY1NzE1JGo2MCRsMCRoMA.. 
More from Laurie:If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, Laurie walks you through the 3H method step by step in her free 75-minute training: 👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar🌐 https://www.lauriegerber.com
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Ep 25: The 5 Dating Mistakes Keeping You Stuck (And How to Fix Them)

Why do so many women over 50 find themselves taking action in their dating lives but never actually getting traction?
That gap between effort and results is one of the most demoralizing places a person can sit. You start to wonder if the apps are rigged, the good ones are all taken, or something is fundamentally wrong with you. None of those things is true. What's actually happening is motion without direction, and it's far more fixable than it feels.
In this episode, Laurie Gerber breaks down the 5 specific reasons dating after divorce over 50 stalls out, even for women who are trying hard. From dating without clarity to chasing chemistry over compatibility to expressing casual energy while wanting a serious relationship, these are the patterns that kill real traction. Laurie also introduces the 3-date strategy, her structured framework for gathering real data on your dates so you can make smarter decisions faster and stop wasting months on the wrong people.
Laurie Gerber is a dating coach for women over 50 with more than 20 years of experience helping women who are done with emotional confusion and ready to find healthy love after 50. Her 3H method, head, heart, and hoo-ha, gives women a concrete system for vetting dates with intention and filtering toward lasting love rather than leaving it to chemistry and luck.
Stick around for the debut of a brand-new segment: Crazy Comments. Laurie reads a pointed critique from a male listener and finds the surprisingly smart takeaways buried inside it.
⏱ Timestamps00:00–03:56 — Intro. What's covered and why action without traction is the core problem.
03:57–06:18 — Reason 1: Lack of Clarity. Without a clear vision, every option looks like potential.
06:19–08:00 — Reason 2: Unfinished Business. Old heartbreak blocks you from building something new.
08:01–10:47 — Reason 3: Chemistry Over Compatibility. Why attraction alone will keep you stuck.
10:48–12:15 — Reason 4: Casual Energy, Serious Goals. Your mindset is repelling the right people.
12:16–14:41 — Reason 5: You're Not Evaluating Your Dates. Experiencing is not the same as learning.
14:42–17:44 — The One Question. Are you directing your dating life or just drifting?
17:45–24:00 — Homework + Crazy Comments. 3 assignments and a listener's surprisingly sharp critique.
🔗 Links & ResourcesEpisodes mentioned in this episode:🎧 Episode 2: The Love Detox and Divorce Detox — how to clean up unfinished emotional business before dating with purpose again https://youtu.be/F4F6eEZ5j18🎧 Episode 3: How to build your 3H chart (head, heart, and hoo-ha) https://youtu.be/A53BiuAiw6o🎧 Episode 6: The questions you should be asking in early dating (Sparks Questions) https://youtu.be/rNcaQKJxBqA
More from Laurie:If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, Laurie walks you through the 3H method step by step, including the full 3-date strategy, in her free 75-minute training: 👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar🌐 Website: https://www.lauriegerber.com
Stay connected with Laurie:▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/ 👍 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber 🎙 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/
 
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Ep 24: He Won't Open Up Until You Stop Doing This

What if the reason men go quiet with you has nothing to do with how much they care, but more about whether they feel safe?
For so many women in midlife, the closed-off man feels like rejection. You ask questions, you try to connect, and he shuts down. What you may not know is that his silence is not personal. It is biological, instinctual, and something you can actually change. 
In this episode, Laurie Gerber is joined by Allison Armstrong, one of the world's leading researchers on male psychology, who has spent over 35 years studying why men and women interact the way they do and what it costs us when we get it wrong.
Armstrong brings her research directly to the questions that matter most for women navigating dating over 50: how to get men to talk, what men are actually attracted to, and how emotional safety in relationships becomes the foundation for everything else. Weaving in dating communication tips grounded in decades of evidence, she and Laurie unpack the relationship psychology behind attraction, silence, and complementary strengths in relationships, along with the surprising role a woman's own happiness plays in her love life. This is dating advice over 50 that goes far deeper than tips and tactics.
Laurie draws on 25 years of applying Allison's work in her own long-term relationship, bringing an intimate honesty to this conversation. If you are a midlife woman trying to understand the men you are dating or the man already in your life, this episode will shift something fundamental in how you see them.
And stay until the end. Allison reveals the three things she got wrong after 35 years of research. That alone is worth the listen.
🎧 In This Episode, Laurie Covers:🗝️ The one-word swap that changes how much a man will open up to a woman 🔒 The concept of being "safe to talk to" and the everyday habits that cause men to shut down without you ever realizing it⚠️ Why even a single well-meaning question can feel like an interrogation to men🎯 A technique for learning everything you need to know about a man in early dating without asking a single question🔒 The hidden threshold men use to decide what they'll never tell you, no matter how much they care💫 What men are unconsciously scanning for when they decide a woman is "special" versus just attractive❓ The three things Allison got wrong after 35 years of studying men and what she knows now
⏱ Timestamps00:00–04:00 - Meet Allison Armstrong.04:00–10:00 - Why Men Don't Discuss Feelings.10:00–16:00 - How to Become Safe to Talk To.22:00–28:00 - Getting Men Talking Without Interrogation.28:00–34:00 - Your Happiness Is Your Responsibility.34:00–42:00 - What Men Are Actually Attracted To.42:00–53:00 - What Women Are Attracted To.
🔗 Links & ResourcesAllison Armstrong's Resources:🔹 Making Sense of Men (e-book): https://www.alisonarmstrong.com/products/makingsense.htmlScroll down and click the purchase button that says "7.95 E-BOOK FOR ME"At checkout, enter promo code AlisonGift2025 (promo code expires 6/30/2026)🔹Your Queen's Code Journey: Summer 2026 (Live webinar series)https://www.alisonarmstrong.com/products/qc-audiobook.html?ctid=C2D04A2B671🔹 The Essentials Package / LUX, Understanding Men or Understanding Womenhttps://www.alisonarmstrong.com/curriculum/getstarted.html?ctid=C28D4A2B671🔹 Smart Singles: https://www.alisonarmstrong.com/curriculum/ssi/?ctid=C2C07A2B671
Laurie’s Free Resource:If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, Laurie walks you through the 3H method step by step in her free 75-minute training: 👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar
Stay connected with Laurie:▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/👍 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber🎙 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/
 
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