Love At Any Age with Laurie Gerber

What's the one dating blind spot keeping women over 50 stuck in the same frustrating patterns?
She's done the personal growth work, read the books, and sat in therapy, maybe more than once. But she still keeps choosing the wrong person, or no one at all, or she's stuck on the sidelines, wishing she felt ready to get back in the game.
In this episode, Laurie Gerber pulls back the curtain on her small group dating coaching program for women over 50, unpacking what really happened over 3 months with the 6 women in her last cohort. She explains the 34 obstacles that commonly trip up daters, and why she builds each woman's curriculum around the Handel Method, developed at MIT and Stanford.
Laurie has spent over 20 years helping women over 50 navigate dating after divorce, widowhood, or a long break from the game, and this episode lays out exactly how group coaching turns hidden blind spots into a personalized plan for finding love after 50.
⏱ TIMESTAMPS00:00–02:00 — The Blind Spot Keeping You Single After 50.02:00–03:14 — Why Dating After 50 Requires Real Expertise.03:14–06:41 — Inside Laurie's Small Group Dating Coaching.06:41–07:51 — What's Changed Since You Last Dated.07:51–09:33 — The 34 Obstacles to Lasting Love After 50.09:33–11:04 — Is Group Coaching Right for You?11:04–12:43 — Support, Structure, and Real Accountability.12:43–15:01 — Client Wins: Kim and Michelle's Breakthroughs.15:01–19:30 — The Homework That Makes Coaching Work.19:30–25:27 — The 3 Phases: Bench, Game, Relationship.25:27–28:35 — Real Client Comments and Results.28:35–32:06 — How to Apply Before the Cohort Fills Up.
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCESApply for Master the Art of Love Small Group Coaching:https://lauriegerber.com/coaching-women?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=promo_coaching_women Master the Art of Love (self-paced digital program):https://lauriegerber.com/maol?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=promo_coaching_womenWebsite:https://www.lauriegerber.com/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=promo_coaching_women
Stay connected with Laurie:▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/

Why do so many men over 50 succeed at work, but still can't crack dating?Many men over 50 have built successful careers, raised kids, and made it through a divorce or the loss of a spouse, yet dating still feels like the one thing they cannot get right. They show up as good guys, but things fall apart anyway, and they cannot always pinpoint why. Some are still sitting on the sidelines, unsure if they are ready to try again.
In this episode, Laurie Gerber breaks down her group dating coaching program for men over 50, Master of the Art of Love for Men, and the dating system that helped 5 men in her last cohort become confident, effective daters in 12 weeks. She walks through what week-to-week coaching actually looks like, answers the most common objections men raise about group coaching, and shares real feedback from men who completed the program.
Laurie has spent over 25 years helping people find lasting, healthy love, and in this episode she turns that experience toward the men in her audience who are ready for a real system instead of more guesswork. If you have wondered whether group dating coaching could work for a man like you, this episode lays out exactly what to expect before you apply.
⏱ TIMESTAMPS00:00–01:00 — Why Dating Feels Impossible for Men Over 5001:00–02:02 — What This Men's Coaching Episode Covers02:02–03:06 — Meet Laurie Gerber, Coach for Daters Over 5003:06–05:57 — Is Group Coaching for Men Just Therapy?05:57–08:23 — Not a Support Group: How the Diagnosis Works08:23–12:02 — Bench, Dating, or Relationship: Where Men Start12:02–15:21 — Cost, Time, and Embarrassment Objections Answered15:21–16:38 — Why This Beats a Dating Book or App16:38–18:07 — No Cross-Coaching: Avoiding Bad Advice From Guys18:07–20:58 — Real Results: What Men Say After 12 Weeks20:58–21:47 — Week-by-Week: How the 12-Week Program Unfolds21:47–23:00 — How to Apply for the Next Men's Cohort
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCESMaster of the Art of Love for Men — Applicationhttps://lauriegerber.com/coaching-men?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=promo_coaching_men 
Mentioned in This EpisodeEp 1: Dating Over 50: How to Stop Repeating the Same Love Mistakeshttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=na3ihxavm6g
Websitehttps://lauriegerber.com?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=promo_coaching_men
Stay connected with Laurie:▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/

What does it take to find love after divorce over 50 when the real obstacle isn’t your age or the apps, but a pattern you haven’t changed yet?
For Silke Schwarzkopf, it took leaving a 25-year sexless marriage and making every classic mistake: coming on too strong, controlling every interaction, and rewriting a man’s entire book manuscript on a 3rd date. She made them all.
In this episode, Silke breaks down the dating mistakes women over 50 keep repeating, including the controlling behaviors that push men away and what sexual reawakening after divorce really feels like when nobody prepares you. The shift came when she stopped dating from a place of need and started dating from a place of want.
Dating coach Laurie Gerber sits down with Silke, creator and host of Second Act TV, for one of the most candid midlife dating conversations yet. Silke and Paul have been together 15 years. She tells you exactly what the shift looked like.
⏱ TIMESTAMPS00:00–02:51 — Introduction: Dating After Divorce at 50 With Silke Schwarzkopf.02:51–05:12 — Leaving a 25-Year Sexless Marriage and the Awakening at 50.05:12–07:44 — From Girlfriend Happy Hours to Creating Second Act TV.07:44–12:18 — Naming the Baggage: Controlling, Over-Caretaking, Sexual Reawakening.12:18–15:43 — First Date Disaster: Triathletes, Angel Numbers, Coming On Too Strong.15:43–18:14 — The Book Rewrite: Editing a Date's Manuscript Uninvited.18:14–20:02 — Over-Giving Is Still Controlling: The Flip Side of the Same Trait.20:02–22:19 — Sexual Reawakening After 50: The Vaginal Atrophy No One Warned Her About.22:19–26:27 — The Click: Getting Unattached to the Outcome Changed Everything.26:27–31:16 — Spotting Paul on Match.com and the Slow-Burn First Date.31:16–38:21 — Long-Distance Dating, Independence, and Living Apart Together.38:21–45:14 — Betrayal, Trust, and the #1 Advice for Finding Love After Divorce.
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCESPrevious Episodes Mentioned
EP 9 — Self-Love, Body Image, and Dating Confidencehttps://youtu.be/8W5KKb93h8EEP 10 — New Year, New Love: How to Make Your Love Resolutions Actually Workhttps://youtu.be/8LvhNBaKBNw
More from Laurie:If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, I walk you through the 3H method step by step in my free 75-minute training:👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_036&utm_term=silke_schwarzkopfVisit Laurie’s website:👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_036&utm_term=silke_schwarzkopfSilke Schwarzkopf’s website: https://2ndact.tvSecond Act TV on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/2ndActTV
Stay Connected with Laurie:▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/

Can you really know if he’s available, or are you watching a man who’s still emotionally married to someone who no longer shares his address?In this episode of Love at Any Age, Laurie Gerber sits down with relationship coach and author Stephan Labossiere (Stephan Speaks) to break down 3 behavioral signs he’s not over his ex and expose the emotionally unavailable patterns that look like forward movement on the outside. They dig into the co-parenting gray zone, the comparison trap, the timeline myth, and what it actually takes to strengthen your relationship foundation before the ex becomes a recurring problem.Laurie has spent 20 years helping women over 50 read behavior instead of hoping. Stephan coaches men directly, which means when he unpacks what “I’m over her” can actually mean, you’re getting the inside story.
⏱ TIMESTAMPS00:00–08:45 — He Said He’s Over Her: What That Phrase Can Actually Mean.08:46–15:11 — Sign 1: How He Shows Up in Your Relationship Is the Tell.15:12–22:29 — Sign 2: Emotionally Married and the Limits He Won’t Set With Her.22:30–28:31 — Co-Parenting and Dating: Spotting Healthy Contact vs. Attachment.28:32–36:07 — Strengthen the Foundation and the Comparison Red Flag.36:08–42:12 — How Many Men Really Heal After a Major Relationship Ends?42:13–49:08 — The Timeline Myth: Why Waiting With Him Won’t Work.49:09–55:50 — Fix Your Picker, Trust Your Intuition, and the Homework.
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCESStephan Labossiere:Website: https://www.stephanspeaksshop.com/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPBO9gLGy8ujsJ7xjARI7ow
Previous episodes mentioned:Episode 23 (Power Sentences): https://youtu.be/bFkIv2ULF88Episode 1: https://youtu.be/na3ihxavm6g
More from Laurie:If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, I walk you through the 3H method step by step in my free 75-minute training:👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_035&utm_term=stephan_labossiereLearn more about Laurie’s approach and coaching programs:👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_035&utm_term=stephan_labossiere
Stay connected with Laurie:▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/

Are you dating like a high-value woman when you should be dating like a woman of value? The distinction sounds small. It isn't.
In this episode, Laurie Gerber sits down with Sandy Weiner, founder of Last First Date and author of 3 books, including her newest, Love at Last, to unpack why the "high value woman" framework so many women over 50 have adopted may actually be working against them. 
Sandy's concept of the "woman of value" flips the script: she's not the prize waiting to be won. She knows her worth, she shows up authentically, and she doesn't abandon herself to be chosen.
Laurie and Sandy dig into what a real man of value looks like (growth mindset tops the list, not therapy hours logged), the difference between a standard and a demand, and how dating from scarcity leads women straight past the good ones. 
Sandy shares her "show up, stand up, speak up" framework, her post-date debrief method, and the single thing every love story in her book has in common. For women over 50 who keep wondering why love hasn't landed yet, this episode will help you see exactly what you might be missing.
⏱ TIMESTAMPS00:00–01:26 — Why "Know Your Worth" Alone Won't Change Your Dating Results 01:27–07:36 — Woman of Value vs. High Value Woman: A Critical Distinction 07:37–09:32 — Meet Sandy Weiner: Chief Love Officer at Last First Date 09:33–16:00 — Why the High Value Woman Pendulum Swings Too Far 16:01–19:03 — Standards vs. Demands: Where Confidence Becomes High Maintenance19:04–25:30 — What a Man of Value Actually Looks Like (Growth Mindset First) 25:31–38:00 — Show Up, Stand Up, Speak Up: Sandy's Framework for Early Dating38:01–53:51 — Self-Sabotage, Scarcity Dating, and the Surprising Truth About Love 
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES📚 Sandy's Books: 🔮 Drawing from over eighteen years of experience as a certified life, dating, and relationship coach, Sandy Weiner will disclose the hidden reasons why we make poor choices in love and the behaviors and skills that lead to our best choices and ultimately – our last first date. Get the book here: Choice Points in Dating by Sandy Weiner  https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 🔮 Becoming a Woman of Value by Sandy Weiner https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook🔮 Love at Last by Sandy Weiner (true stories of people who found lasting love) https://amzn.to/4erpj7C🌐 Sandy's website: https://lastfirstdate.com🎙 Sandy's podcasts: Last First Date Radio Podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio or Spotify https://tinyurl.com/lfdradio 🎙 The Woman of Value Podcast https://bit.ly/4nSC699👯 Facebook group for women: https://www.facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate/ 📱  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lastfirstdate1 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ ▶️ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@Lastfirstdate  
More from Laurie:If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, Laurie walks you through the 3H method step by step in her free 75-minute training: 👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=love_at_any_age&utm_medium=youtube&utm_campaign=guest_appearance&utm_content=sandy_weiner&utm_term=ep34 
🌐 Laurie's website: 👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com?utm_source=love_at_any_age&utm_medium=youtube&utm_campaign=guest_appearance&utm_content=sandy_weiner&utm_term=ep34 
Stay connected with Laurie:▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/ 👍 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber 🎙 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/

What does a divorced man over 50 really need in dating, and why do so many smart, capable women keep accidentally driving him away? 
In this episode, Laurie Gerber and returning guest Lisa Copeland decode the 5 things divorced men wish women over 50 knew before dating them. Using real comments from divorced men who responded to Episode 18, they cover what men over 50 really want, why women unknowingly trigger ex-wife fears, what intimacy actually means to a man who has been touch-deprived, and the communication gap that makes normal female conversation feel like an attack. This is dating after divorce advice grounded in what men actually say, not what we assume they mean.
Laurie Gerber has been helping women over 50 date effectively for 20 years, and Lisa Copeland is one of the first coaches to focus exclusively on dating in midlife. Together, they bring decades of expertise to a format that sets this episode apart: the insights don't come filtered through a coaching lens alone. They come directly from divorced men who had something to say about what women keep getting wrong. If you want to attract a divorced man and stop repeating the patterns that go sideways, this conversation is worth your full attention.
⏱ TIMESTAMPS00:00–03:33 — Intro: 5 things divorced men wish women knew. 03:33–08:41 — Accepted as is: the one thing divorced men want most. 08:41–12:01 — Trust: how women unknowingly push men away. 12:01–21:59 — The ex-wife trigger: what criticism signals to divorced men. 21:59–25:07 — What divorced men actually mean by intimacy. 25:07–30:06 — Flirting after 50: how to show real interest. 30:06–37:13 — Why divorced men need women to get to the point. 37:13–42:03 — Homework: the 3 pairs of dating glasses.
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCESEpisodes mentioned in this conversation:
Episode 18: 8 Things Men Really Want in a Woman Over 50 (with Lisa Copeland) https://youtu.be/XLXCOjYu36w
Lisa Copeland's free resource (mentioned in this episode): The Art of Flirting After 50: How to Let a Man Know You're Interested Without Feeling Awkward, Fake, or Like You're Chasing Him 👉 https://find-a-quality-man.aweb.page/Laurie-flirting-after-50
Lisa Copeland: 🔗 https://findaqualityman.com/
More from Laurie:If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, I walk you through the 3H method step by step in my free 1-hour training: 👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_033&utm_term=lisa_copeland
Take Laurie's quiz (Are You Ready to Date Like You Mean It?) and explore all her coaching resources: 👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_033&utm_term=lisa_copeland
 
Stay connected with Laurie:
▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/
 
More About Laurie:
Menopause Love Lounge: ⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/60kJBvN1p4ZBsmEJL5rEdj⁠

Are you dating a divorced man over 50 and wondering if he's actually healed, or just using you as his rebound therapist?
Dating a divorced man isn't just dating him. You're dating his wounds, his trust issues, his ex-wife dynamic, and sometimes his complicated relationship with his kids. It can feel like a lot,  because it is. And if you don't know what you're looking for, it's easy to end up in a relationship that drains you instead of fills you up.
In this episode of Love at Any Age, Laurie Gerber sits down with Rachael Sloan, founder of Better Beyond Divorce, a coaching program that helps men heal emotionally after separation. Rachael has worked with over 600 divorced men and she knows what a healed man actually looks like before he starts dating again. 
This is a rare peek behind the curtain at what men are really going through, and what women over 50 need to know to stop missing the signs. Laurie and Rachael cover the 3 green flags that tell you a divorced man is genuinely ready, the rebound relationship signs that women consistently overlook, and how to handle ex-wife drama and his kids without losing yourself in the process. If you're dating after divorce over 50, this episode will save you months of confusion.
⏱ TIMESTAMPS00:01–01:28 — Why Dating a Divorced Man Is Different
01:28–03:08 — Meet Rachael Sloan: Inside the Divorced Men's World
03:08–06:30 — Red Flag: When He Uses Dating as Therapy
06:30–09:03 — What Divorced Men Are Really Struggling With
09:03–14:00 — Trust, Emotional Availability & What Women Miss
14:00–19:07 — Nervous System Regulation & Old Biases About Men
19:07–22:46 — The 3 Signs He's Actually Ready to Date
22:46–35:03 — Good Men, Healing Stages & Bringing Out His Best
35:03–38:44 — When His Ex Comes Back on the Scene
38:44–50:21 — His Kids, the Final Red Flag & Rachael's Free Guide
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCESRachael Sloan's Free Download: Emotional Stages of Divorce — A Survival Guide for Men 9 stages of the divorce grieving process, with signs for each stage and exercises to help men move through them instead of getting stuck.  https://resources.rachaelsloancoaching.com/stages
👉 Find Rachael and Better Beyond Divorce at: https://www.rachaelsloancoaching.com/
Rachael's YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@RachaelSloanRelationshipCoach
Episode mentioned: Ep. 24 with Alison Armstrong on men, agency, and what they really need in relationships https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mflu8wn4e64
 
More from Laurie:
If you are a man looking for help with dating, please fill out Laurie’s survey to get in touchhttps://lauriegerber.com/maol-men-survey
If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, Laurie walks you through how to define what you’re looking for,  step by step in her free 75-minute training: 👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_032&utm_term=rachael_sloan
🌐 Website: https://www.lauriegerber.com/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_032&utm_term=rachael_sloan
 
Stay connected with Laurie:
▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/ 👍 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber 🎙 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/
 
More About Laurie:
Menopause Love Lounge: ⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/60kJBvN1p4ZBsmEJL5rEdj⁠

Are you assuming you're exclusive when you've never actually had the conversation?
Most women over 50 who are dating again make this exact mistake, and the fallout is real. She stops checking other profiles. She tells her friends. She starts planning a future. And he has no idea any of that is happening.
In this episode of Love at Any Age, Laurie Gerber breaks down why assuming monogamy is one of the most common and costly mistakes in dating over 50. She hands you a complete framework for handling it: assessing your own 3H readiness, clearing the 6 hurdles before sex belongs in the relationship, and following a precise 4-step checklist for actually establishing exclusivity. This episode gives you the words, the order, and the confidence to stop guessing and start choosing.
Laurie helps women over 50 stop operating on assumptions and start building real, lasting love. If you're dating right now and the exclusivity conversation hasn't happened yet, this episode is not optional.
⏱ TIMESTAMPS00:01–00:27 — Why assuming monogamy in dating is costing you. 00:28–01:32 — What today's episode covers: the full roadmap. 01:33–03:18 — Who this episode is for; Laurie's dating coaching philosophy. 03:19–05:10 — The monogamy mismatch: men assume vs. women assume. 05:11–08:10 — How to assess your 3H readiness before raising monogamy. 08:11–11:11 — Why waiting for monogamy before sex protects your heart. 11:12–20:30 — The 6 hurdles to clear before having sex with someone. 20:31–29:11 — The 4-step checklist to establish monogamy (exact words to use). 29:12–35:59 — Homework, crazy comments, and closing thoughts.
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCESEpisodes mentioned in this episode:
Episode 5 (how to talk about the difficult things and liabilities): https://youtu.be/qN-d5vMFdwEEpisode 12 (dating profiles and what you have to offer): https://youtu.be/sawFhaAk5NQEpisode 13 (referenced in Crazy Comments): https://youtu.be/UTqyOl7K0WcEpisode 30 with Donna Barnes (attachment, chemistry, and the 6 hurdles): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GLvnDQgyH5k&t=174s
More from Laurie:
If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, Laurie walks you through the 3H method step by step in her free 75-minute training: 👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_031
Stay connected with Laurie:📺 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/
 
More About Laurie:
Menopause Love Lounge: ⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/60kJBvN1p4ZBsmEJL5rEdj⁠

Are you still following the third date rule when it comes to sex, and wondering why it keeps backfiring?
Most dating advice about when to have sex is either vague, outdated, or designed with someone else's agenda in mind. For women over 50, the stakes are higher. You know what heartbreak costs. You know what it feels like to override your own gut and regret it. And you deserve a clear, practical roadmap instead of a guessing game.
In this episode, dating coach Laurie Gerber sits down with relationship expert and podcast host Donna Barnes to walk through the 6 questions every woman over 50 must be able to answer before sex belongs in a new relationship. 
From "do I know him well enough?" to the monogamy conversation most couples skip entirely, this episode covers the real meaning of readiness and gives you a checklist you can actually use. If you've ever wondered how long to wait before sex, what healthy relationship sex actually looks like, or how to have the STI conversation without dying of awkwardness, this one is for you.
⏱ TIMESTAMPS00:00–02:05 — The Third Date Rule: Myth vs. Reality02:06–07:28 — Donna's 10-Date Rule and Why It Works07:29–09:47 — Introducing Donna Barnes09:48–18:42 — Question 1: Do I Know Him Well Enough?18:43–20:53 — Question 2: Are We a Real Match?20:54–26:48 — Question 3: Are My Eyes Wide Open?26:49–31:15 — Question 4: Has Monogamy Been Defined?31:16–35:37 — Question 5: Are We Responsible About STIs?35:38–43:18 — Question 6: Are We Prepared for It to Go Well?43:19–45:30 — Homework + Where to Find Donna
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES📖 Previously mentioned episode: Episode 6: Questions to Ask on the First Few Dates: https://youtu.be/rNcaQKJxBqA📚 Guest Resources: 🎙 Broken to Brave Podcast (Donna Barnes)  https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOy5sro7RED31krPpnsgsUx-KjcTbTHkd🌐 https://donnabarnes.com 📺 Donna Barnes on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@DonnaBarnes/ 
More from Laurie:If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, Laurie walks you through the 3H method step by step in her free 75-minute training: 👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=love_at_any_age&utm_medium=youtube&utm_campaign=guest_appearance&utm_content=donna_barnes&utm_term=ep30 🌐 https://lauriegerber.com https://www.lauriegerber.com?utm_source=love_at_any_age&utm_medium=youtube&utm_campaign=guest_appearance&utm_content=donna_barnes&utm_term=ep30 Stay connected with Laurie:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/
 
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Menopause Love Lounge: ⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/60kJBvN1p4ZBsmEJL5rEdj⁠

Are third date mistakes what's keeping you in situationships or almost-relationships that go nowhere?
Three dates in, something real has started to form. There's history, laughter, regular texts, and a growing sense of possibility. But this is also where investment bias kicks in, where a four or five sneakily starts to feel like an eight, and where most women stop asking the questions that actually matter. By date 3, the window for a clean, clear decision is still open. At date four, it starts to close.
In this episode of Love at Any Age, Laurie Gerber tackles the 3 third date mistakes that send women into situationships, wasted months, and relationships they never truly wanted. From avoiding deal-breaker conversations to skipping the monogamy discussion before getting physical to staying past date three when the signs are already there, this episode gives women the dating coach advice they need to make the right call before emotional attachment makes it harder. If you are looking for honest long-term relationship advice and real tools for dating decision-making, this one delivers.
Laurie Gerber has spent more than 20 years helping women through exactly this inflection point, and she knows what investment bias costs women over 50 who are serious about finding the right match. Her 3H framework gives you a concrete, no-guesswork method for knowing whether to keep going or walk away clean.
She also shares the exact conversation starters for the hardest topics, including finances, health, and monogamy, and explains why the real third date rule has nothing to do with sex and everything to do with protecting your time, your energy, and your future.
⏱ TIMESTAMPS00:00-00:27 - Welcome and Why the 3rd Date Is the Most Important00:27-02:00 - What Investment Bias Is and Why It Kicks In Now02:00-03:38 - Date 3 as Your Last Clean Exit Point03:38-07:05 - Mistake 1: Avoiding the Deal Breaker Conversations07:05-08:30 - How to Lead with Vulnerability to Open Hard Topics08:30-11:06 - Mistake 2: Skipping Monogamy Before Getting Physical11:06-13:13 - Mistake 3: Staying When You Already Know It's Wrong13:13-15:55 - The 3H Test and Your Homework Before the Next Date
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCESEpisodes Mentioned: 🎙 Dating Mini-Episode Part 1 (First Date Mistakes): [insert link when available] 🎙 Dating Mini-Episode Part 2 (Second Date Mistakes): [insert link when available] 🎙 Episode 8 (How to Reject Someone with Kindness):https://youtu.be/ugW2K8_SYzw
If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, I walk you through the 3H method step by step in my free 75-minute training: 👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar🎓 Ready to go deeper? The Master the Art of Love digital course covers all of this from start to finish: 👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/MAOL🌐 Website: https://www.lauriegerber.com
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